Cognitive behavioral therapy may be done one-on-one or in groups with family members or with people who have like issues. Online resources are available that may make getting CBT possible even if you live in an area with few local mental health resources.
CBT often includes:
- Learning about your mental health condition.
- Learning techniques such as relaxation, coping, resilience, stress management and assertiveness.
- Practicing ways to deal with worry and with thoughts that keep coming back and are upsetting and hard to stop.
- Learning how to approach and tolerate situations you have been avoiding.
Your first therapy session
At your first session, your therapist gathers information about you and asks what concerns you'd like to work on. The therapist asks you about your current and past physical and emotional health to get a deeper understanding of your situation. Your therapist may talk with you about whether you might benefit from other treatment as well, such as medicines.
The first session also is a chance to interview your therapist to see if you and the therapist are a good match. Make sure you understand:
- The therapist's approach.
- What type of therapy is best for you.
- The goals of your treatment.
- The length of each therapy session.
- How many therapy sessions you may need.
It might take a few sessions for your therapist to fully understand your situation and concerns and to decide on the best course of action. If you don't feel comfortable with the first therapist you see, try someone else. Having a good "fit" with your therapist can help you get the most benefit from CBT.
During CBT
Your therapist encourages you to talk about your thoughts and feelings and what's troubling you. Don't worry if you find it hard to open up about your feelings. Your therapist can help you gain more confidence and feel more comfortable sharing.
CBT generally focuses on specific issues, using an approach that sets goals. As you go through the therapy process, your therapist may ask you to do homework. Homework may include activities, reading or practices that build on what you learn during your regular therapy sessions. This encourages you to apply what you're learning in your daily life. The homework is designed to help you reach your treatment goals.
Your therapist's approach depends on your situation and what you want. Your therapist may mix CBT with another approach. For example, your therapist may add interpersonal therapy that focuses on your relationships with other people.
Steps in CBT
CBT typically includes these steps:
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Talk about troubling situations or conditions in your life. These may include such issues as a medical condition, divorce, grief, anger or symptoms of a mental health condition. You and your therapist may spend some time deciding what issues and goals you want to focus on.
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Become aware of your thoughts, emotions and beliefs about these issues. Once you know the issues to work on, your therapist encourages you to share your thoughts about them. This may include looking at what you tell yourself about an experience, sometimes called self-talk. You also may look at what you think a situation means and your beliefs about yourself, other people and events. Your therapist may suggest that you keep a journal of your thoughts.
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Become aware of thinking patterns that may be creating issues. Your therapist may ask you to do a self-monitoring task to pay attention to your physical, emotional and behavioral responses in different situations. This can help you see patterns of thinking and behavior that may be adding to your issues.
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Challenge thinking patterns that may be creating issues. Your therapist can teach you ways to ask whether your view of a situation is based on facts or just feelings. This step can be very hard. You may have long-standing ways of thinking about your life, yourself and others. With practice, you can think in new or different ways. Learning more helpful thinking and behavior patterns can become a habit and won't take as much effort.
Length of therapy
CBT is generally short-term therapy. It may range from about 5 to 20 sessions. You and your therapist can talk about how many sessions may be right for you. Factors to think about include:
- Your condition or situation.
- How severe your symptoms are.
- How long you have had your symptoms or have been dealing with your situation.
- How quickly you make progress.
- How much you practice skills between sessions.
- How much stress you're having.
- How much support you receive from family members and other people.
Privacy
Except in very specific circumstances, talks with your therapist are confidential. That means they're kept private between you and your therapist. A therapist may break confidentiality if there is a current threat to safety or when required by state or federal law to report concerns to authorities. These situations include if you:
- Plan to harm yourself or take your own life.
- Plan to harm or take the life of another person.
- Abuse, exploit or neglect a child or a vulnerable adult. Vulnerable adults are over age 18 and not able to care for themselves or protect themselves because of age or disability.
- Can't safely care for yourself.