If you're having trouble doing Kegel exercises, ask your healthcare professional for help. Your healthcare professional can show you how to strengthen the correct muscles. So can a physical therapist who has experience teaching pelvic floor exercises.
Your healthcare professional may suggest other techniques to try along with Kegels. One technique is called biofeedback. A small pressure sensor placed in the rectum measures pelvic floor activity as you relax and squeeze your pelvic floor muscles.
Another technique that may help is called electrical stimulation. A device releases a mild electric current that causes you to squeeze your pelvic muscles as you would during Kegels.